Archive for the ‘future’ Category

All You Need is Love

November 3, 2007

Knowing and forgetting you know have great, often unrecongnized impact.  I have a fundamental mindset in my coaching that you know the solutions to your problems and you don’t know that you know or have forgotten that you know.  Happened to me…  Rediscovered in one of my Mastermind groups.

“All I ever did was I did what I loved.  And I just made money at it.”  This from a good friend, highly known and respected in his chosen fields.  He just reminded me of the wisdom of the Beatles.  And the wisdom of every religion.  And the wisdom of the  Lazy Man’s Guide to Enlightenment and, of course, the Law of Attraction.  In fact – all wisdom.  So How could I forget?  I certainly know this.

But I see that I sometimes lose my focus.  It’s really exquisite:  Here’s one side:  I focus on money, knowing I will then use it with love.  And the other sideL  I focus on God, knowing “Him” as the substance of Love and the source of prosperity and all my good.  Just a “little” shift in context, like “first give me fire then I’ll give you wood.”

This is why vision is crucial in coaching.  When you are completely focussed on your goal, it’s easy to forget why the goal.  The point of your goal is not the goal!  The point is the ongoing fulfillment of your vision.

What’s your vision?

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Remembering

October 19, 2007

michael.jpgThis is me in case you wondered.  I think it was just taken at my youngest daughter’s wedding.

Here’s the thing – we often know what to do – right after we don’t do it…and vice versa, like remembering we gave up smoking today right after we light up, or saying ‘whoops’ right after eating that piece of cake.

So how can we remember in time?  Ultimately, we can’t – until what we want becomes a habit.  And it takes (most experts say) about a month to lock in a new habit.  So let’s look at what happens when we ‘forget.’.

Consider these responses: “Darn, I just had a piece of cake – I’ll never get this right.”

“I just had a piece of cake, when will I ever learn?”

“I just had a piece of cake, what can I do instead of eating cake?”

There are many different responses – many.  But let’s look at the Law of Attraction.  The first two responses above are fixing your old habit in the universe.  You are attracting never getting it right or never learning.  The third response will actually attract alternative behavior (it also implies forgiveness and that’s critical).  Soon you will be doing something else.

When I set a goal, I immediately turn it into 1) something I visualize as having happened ands 2) an affirmation having the goal manifested in the present (I love ooking great by eating healthy foods, for example.)  And I say that affirmation twice a day (with emotion:  I LOVE looking GREAT by eating healthy foods.)

After a while, you’ll get it – It may no show up according to your plan, but who cares?  It will show up.  Incidentally, I went to my doctor last night and I weighed my lowest since seeing him (went from 245 to 178) I have no sense of dieting.  None!

Giant Steps

October 11, 2007

When I was maybe 7 or 8 we used to play a street game called “Giant Steps.”  The leader would tell a player he or she could come closer and when they touched, the leader would chase them back to the start line.  If they got there first, they became the leader, otherwise the leader stayed the same. 

The leader would say, “You may take 3 giant steps,” or “you may take 5 baby steps,” or you may take 4 umbrella steps,” etc.  My point is that you were not allowed to actually take the steps until you said, “May I?” and the leader said, “yes.”

The key element in being able to move forward was permission.

It is still that way.  You cannot engage effectively with another person without permission.  It is another one of the key tips about coaching.  First permission, then whatever else.

And people are enormously generous in giving permission.  The simple request, “is it all right if I tell you something?” shifts the context of the conversation, actually changing the ears of the other person.  Now, if what you want to say feels especially awkward or sensitive to you, go for more permission.  “This may be sensitive; is it still okay?”  Or “I don’t want you to hear this the wrong way, is it still okay?”

Again, people are generous.  It shifts the interaction from intrusiveness to partnership. 

Once you have permission, you can say anything – without fear of reprisal.  After all, you have been invited in.There is another aspect of permission that also has tremendous value.  When you are nervous or feel silly or stupid or inappropriate, give yourself permission – “I feel really stupid saying this, but ….,” or “I’m awfully nervous about this, …”

The coaching model I use goes as follows:  First permission, then ask a question, then clarify the answer… This frequently leads to the client having an insight.  This, in turn, results in a possible action, which, when repeated, leads to new habits and, ultimately to desired results.

My website is www.michaellipp.com

Seeking the Future

September 26, 2007

No need to seek – it is coming.  The other day I realized that I’ve played a game of brinkmanship with my life (yesterday, we couldn’t get our safe open and I said we were now playing Brinksmanship)  When I look at my family’s history, I can see how I inherited this – It’s a game of “don’t worry, something will turn up”  and it always did and now I can say it always has.

But as I study the Law of Attraction, I see that I’m creating this every day – even by just speaking of it.  Well, this is the end of that conversation.  Don’t know what damaging conversations you have, maybe that you’re unaware of.  Here are some things that will eliminate them, replace them with fruitful conversations – gratitude, appreciation, love — hanging out with people who will reinforce the ‘other’ thoughts, the other conversations.  I used to think I didn’t know these ‘other’ people.  Create them; they’re there and they’re waiting for you.

The Success Principles

September 16, 2007

I invite you to participate in the second “Success Principles” workshop. This has proven to be an exceptional introduction to the benefits of coaching as well as a valuable refresher course, if you are already familiar with coaching.I have had incredible and valuable feedback from the people who are in the current Workshop and want to extend this invitation to you.

Send an email to michaellipp-261308@easywebautomation1.com to register.

I’m also redesigning my website to reflect these changes – www.michaellipp.com – but it will be a day or two.

The New Paradigm

September 10, 2007

I’m operating in a new paradigm – that fits me–It’s the paradigm of the Giftconomy.  Give valuable things away for free.  I don’t think of customers (I never did.)  I think of clients.  And I think of the lifetime value of a client.

On October 1st I’m starting the next iteration of The Success Principles, a free 6-session teleseminar from 7:30 – 8:30EDT Monday evenings.  eMail to register (michael@michaellipp.com )…So far – Rave Reviews.  For Example

“I love being part of your Success Principles group.. It’s a novel way to stay plugged in.. I’ve done a lot of work at Landmark and other venues, and – your TeleClass is like “Accent” –  It’s ‘waking up’ my inner compass, and reminding me of just who I am, for myself, my family and for the world.  Accepting anything less is not acceptable.  Being part of your class is great – it’s energizing and is making a big difference in what’s going on between my ears on a daily basis.  Thanks for ‘re-lighting my fire’ Michael!”
Love,
Ira W.

I Love These Words

August 31, 2007

Ruthless, Integrous, Loving, Accountable, Responsible, Playful, Empathic, Insightful, Futuristic, Trustworthy, Light Hearted.

That’s my coaching… probably all coaching…  don’t know if I left out any.  My Self-serving job is to have you think of me like that. And then act on that.  I do a six session teleseminar at no cost to allow that to happen.  It’s been designed by Jack Canfield:  The Success Principles – It’s a great workshop. 

Altruism, Contribution and Gain

August 20, 2007

I used to think I was alruistic – thought that was something to aspire. I was fooling myself.

Sometimes my ‘altruism’ was weakness, an inability to say no, made okay by thinking I was being altruistic.  And the rest of the time I wouldn’t own my desire to gain — selfish (tsk, tsk) even evil. 

I want to gain- The more I gain, the more I can give away, the more I can contribute.  Years ago, The Hunger Project stopped asking for contributions – Contribution implies an improper un-leveling effect – the from-to model doesn’t work for the ‘to’ – leads to resentment.  The Hunger Project wants Investors; they want our recognition that we gain from giving.

BNI, a worldwide business networking organization has a simple motto:  Givers Gain.  People are happy to give others referrals they give to give, knowing that they will gain from others.

I am The Contribution Coach and I want to be clear about this.  I gain from my coaching.  You will gain from your contribution.

July 26th, 2007 – Rocks and Hard Places

July 26, 2007

Sometimes being caught between a rock and a hard place is what I need to create – Desperation equals Inspiration – very interesting.

I found this site this morning:  http://www.AttractWorldPeace.com/today.htm

Particularly exciting because I’m giving a free teleclass on The Law of Attraction (How to Attract) next Thursday at 7:30 EDT.  —

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July 25th, 2007 Eating

July 25, 2007

I have dealt with the conflict between what I like to eat and the way I ‘should’ eat for most of my life.  My first diet was when I was 14 – that was to lose weight – but the conflict has never stopped.  Now I know a lot more and I really want to eat the way I should eat.  And I’m getting better at choosing.  Last night I made a big choice –

I finally got it about milk.  Do you know we’re the only species that drinks another species’ milk?  And pasteurization kills whatever value it may have – We kill all the beneficial bacteria – we cook the milk before we store it.  Why?  Because it will stay around longer to be sold.  I’ve used goat milk for 30+ years because its formulation is very close to breast milk – but it’s still pasteurized.

What’s worse is that I use it in coffee.  The combination of milk and coffee produces something that’s neither when it goes through the body – It ends up as a kind of sludge – particularly hard to digest – adds weight, slows metabolism, …

So as of today – no more milk