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Awesome Coaching Notes: 5-21

May 22, 2008

Group Coaching is an interesting phenomenon,,, a lot like a jazz combo – one riff comes after another and flies above it.  The rhythym of the group creates a certain tension that facilitates the solos.  Sounds strange, I know, but the things that are said are often unpredictable.

Last night we dealt with each person’s goals.  I saw that the way we normally treat a goal is similar to the way we usually deal with a project – in some sense like a straight line.  Here’s the starting point – then this step, that step, and on until this milestone is reached, then that and so on.  That’s not even what happens with project plans.  We lose sight of “Man plans, God laughs.”  When plans are fixed, we often scramble to deal with frequent emergencies, shifts in outside factors, oversights, etc.  They often seem to rely on one or two people who somehow deal with the breakdowns and move forward regardless.

Goals rarely start with a well-defined plan; the plan -if any – is usually incomplete or non-existent.  There’s often floundering around, searching for a useful direction.  I use the prairie dog metaphor — constantly sicking your head out and scanning the horizon to see what’s next.  Course correction is constant; ‘next’ is often more valuable than ‘forward.’  Too many people are discouraged by an apparent blunder.  Blunders teach.

That brought up the subject of where do goals come from?  Are they realistic?  Are they achievable?
I floundered.  There’s something useful achieved simply by saying them… Saying them to a group is even more valuable.  This brings the Law of Attraction into play.  We work with ‘how’ to provide focus and intention.  But focusing gives the universe the ‘what.’  Tiny impulses provide the ‘how.’… where there’s a will, there’s a way.

Look, the main feature of goals is that they defy statistics.  I know that some of my clients havce stated goals that seem impossible (“have my husband’s ex-wife stop suing us.”  and similar leaps into the, at best, improbable) And have made their goals.  Not all make their goals.  Most – overwhelming number – do.  Why is the most intriguing question for  coach.

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Viral Coaching

February 14, 2008

One of the ways I coach is with small groups.  My job is to orchestrate the conversation.  What I find over and over is that the participants coach one another; insights are contagious and shift the conversation.  What I do is summarize, appreciate and put my 2 cents in.  And, inevitably, I am coached and get value from the conversation,

In many ways this is far more effective than one on one coaching and, remarkably, it is far less expensive.  I will analogize this to Web 2.0, a sort of Coaching 2.0.  I provide an overall commitment and a gross structure.  You provide the rest.

Why I called this Viral Coaching is another aspect of the same Coaching 2.0 notion.  I know that people will talk about this.  “Hey, I’m doing something that you would love.  You should try this.  It’s Awesome Coaching and it’s awesome.” 

Time for Next Year: More on Goals

December 20, 2007

A goal creates a future.  It’s a target, something to aim at, something that provides direction and focus.  And what we don’t fully understand is that when we send energy into the universe, the universe responds to that energy. 

Negative goals manifest the negative circumstances.  I won’t X will always give you more X. Be careful about losing weight and New Year’s resolutions.

Forced goals (like at work) may be met – but they’re always chores.  They mean more work, harder work and less authentic satisfaction. And our heart isn’t in it – our butt, yes – but not our heart.  The universe doesn’t hear grunts.  It hears cheers. Actually, it hears grunts – but it grunts back.

There was a time when I had sales goals with no charge on them at all.  What an amazing strategy –  Here’s how it worked on me:  Whenever I made the goal, I immediately made a higher goal.  Whenever I didn’t make the goal, I immediately made a higher goal because I could see how to correct and so I shot higher. 

It ended up that I received a reward for my performance.  “Why?” I said.  “I rarely ever made my goals.”  But I also never noticed my achievements along the way.  I kept correcting and improving, correcting and improving.  The results grew and grew.

This is part of what formed one of my strong beliefs.  You’ll encounter this again and again: 
“Ready… Fire… Aim!”  Correct and improve, correct and improve,… When there’s no sense of failure, there’s the room to correct and fire again. You know when we landed on the moon, we were off course almost all the time…the strategy of correct and aim was constant and essential.

Do the Big Rocks First

November 15, 2007

Life is a constant stream of distractions.  Dealing with them often keeps us from our work.  Consider that work is just another distraction.

Your goals create your future.  Your vision of that future empowers those goals.  As I’ve often said, the traffic is even worse when we’re paving the road.  How do we work on our goals when the traffic is so bad, when the distractions mount?

You have big rocks, little rocks and sand – and one bowl.  It makes sense to pour the sand, then the small rocks and then the big rocks –  The trouble is, there’s not enought room for the big rocks. Suppose you do it the other way round.  Put the big rocks in.  Then the small rocks will fit in the available space and the sand will flow around everything to the bottom.  It’s counter-intuitive, and it works.

Every day:  First meditate.  This clears your mind and puts you in touch with the universe.  Then review your goals – speak your affirmations.  Then write down your goals for today, then your plans for the day.  Give yourself time to study and learn.

If that crowds your morning, get up earlier.

All You Need is Love

November 3, 2007

Knowing and forgetting you know have great, often unrecongnized impact.  I have a fundamental mindset in my coaching that you know the solutions to your problems and you don’t know that you know or have forgotten that you know.  Happened to me…  Rediscovered in one of my Mastermind groups.

“All I ever did was I did what I loved.  And I just made money at it.”  This from a good friend, highly known and respected in his chosen fields.  He just reminded me of the wisdom of the Beatles.  And the wisdom of every religion.  And the wisdom of the  Lazy Man’s Guide to Enlightenment and, of course, the Law of Attraction.  In fact – all wisdom.  So How could I forget?  I certainly know this.

But I see that I sometimes lose my focus.  It’s really exquisite:  Here’s one side:  I focus on money, knowing I will then use it with love.  And the other sideL  I focus on God, knowing “Him” as the substance of Love and the source of prosperity and all my good.  Just a “little” shift in context, like “first give me fire then I’ll give you wood.”

This is why vision is crucial in coaching.  When you are completely focussed on your goal, it’s easy to forget why the goal.  The point of your goal is not the goal!  The point is the ongoing fulfillment of your vision.

What’s your vision?

Remembering

October 19, 2007

michael.jpgThis is me in case you wondered.  I think it was just taken at my youngest daughter’s wedding.

Here’s the thing – we often know what to do – right after we don’t do it…and vice versa, like remembering we gave up smoking today right after we light up, or saying ‘whoops’ right after eating that piece of cake.

So how can we remember in time?  Ultimately, we can’t – until what we want becomes a habit.  And it takes (most experts say) about a month to lock in a new habit.  So let’s look at what happens when we ‘forget.’.

Consider these responses: “Darn, I just had a piece of cake – I’ll never get this right.”

“I just had a piece of cake, when will I ever learn?”

“I just had a piece of cake, what can I do instead of eating cake?”

There are many different responses – many.  But let’s look at the Law of Attraction.  The first two responses above are fixing your old habit in the universe.  You are attracting never getting it right or never learning.  The third response will actually attract alternative behavior (it also implies forgiveness and that’s critical).  Soon you will be doing something else.

When I set a goal, I immediately turn it into 1) something I visualize as having happened ands 2) an affirmation having the goal manifested in the present (I love ooking great by eating healthy foods, for example.)  And I say that affirmation twice a day (with emotion:  I LOVE looking GREAT by eating healthy foods.)

After a while, you’ll get it – It may no show up according to your plan, but who cares?  It will show up.  Incidentally, I went to my doctor last night and I weighed my lowest since seeing him (went from 245 to 178) I have no sense of dieting.  None!

Seeking the Future

September 26, 2007

No need to seek – it is coming.  The other day I realized that I’ve played a game of brinkmanship with my life (yesterday, we couldn’t get our safe open and I said we were now playing Brinksmanship)  When I look at my family’s history, I can see how I inherited this – It’s a game of “don’t worry, something will turn up”  and it always did and now I can say it always has.

But as I study the Law of Attraction, I see that I’m creating this every day – even by just speaking of it.  Well, this is the end of that conversation.  Don’t know what damaging conversations you have, maybe that you’re unaware of.  Here are some things that will eliminate them, replace them with fruitful conversations – gratitude, appreciation, love — hanging out with people who will reinforce the ‘other’ thoughts, the other conversations.  I used to think I didn’t know these ‘other’ people.  Create them; they’re there and they’re waiting for you.

The Success Principles

September 16, 2007

I invite you to participate in the second “Success Principles” workshop. This has proven to be an exceptional introduction to the benefits of coaching as well as a valuable refresher course, if you are already familiar with coaching.I have had incredible and valuable feedback from the people who are in the current Workshop and want to extend this invitation to you.

Send an email to michaellipp-261308@easywebautomation1.com to register.

I’m also redesigning my website to reflect these changes – www.michaellipp.com – but it will be a day or two.

Tomorrow sometimes comes

August 1, 2007

Obviously, thinking that it doesn’t come is wordplay – Of course, it’s always far away until it’s no longer tomorrow.  And it is always a surprise.  Some of what you’re ready for actually happens.  Some doesn’t; some happens differently than you had imagined.

It’s important to stop.  Most of us think we have to keep going and going.  We all want to be whatever those batteries are.  But there are things we should  stop for.

We should always stop to plan and assess.  Are we still on course?  What’s the world’s feedback for us?  How do I deal with changing conditions?  Is there a relation of this and that?  How do I deal with that? I could go on and on.  Planning for tomorrow saves time – usually today, sometimes from now on.

On this very tomorrow, the one that right now is my tomorrow,  I’m giving a free teleseminar On The Law of Attraction:  How to Attract.  I’d love to have you with us.
                                                        Thursday, August 2nd
                                                      7:30 EDT

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July 26th, 2007 – Rocks and Hard Places

July 26, 2007

Sometimes being caught between a rock and a hard place is what I need to create – Desperation equals Inspiration – very interesting.

I found this site this morning:  http://www.AttractWorldPeace.com/today.htm

Particularly exciting because I’m giving a free teleclass on The Law of Attraction (How to Attract) next Thursday at 7:30 EDT.  —

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