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Coaching 2.0 Teleseminar is Set

April 10, 2008

The Teleseminar is now booked
The subject is chosen
All we need is YOU.

If you picked Relationships on the survey of topics, you win and you will receive a copy of The Relationship Principles.  So will the first 75 attendees to the teleseminar.  Here’s a taste:

The Relationship Principles

Work relationships have special challenges.

There are different kinds of work relationships and they’re very fluid, from when you first start to when you’re a seasoned veteran.

• Peer to peer relationships
• Relationships with different levels of supervisors
• Relationship with recently promoted supervisors
• Relationships with people who leave
• Relationship with clients or customers
• Relationship with providers, with service personnel
• Relationships between supervisors and reporting personnel

The Coaching 2.0 teleseminar on Wednesday, April 30,(7:30 -830 EDT) will be about this, Relationships at Work.

Though this seminar will focus on work relationships, it is really about all relationships – friends, community, family, …  What makes work relationships unique is that  there’s no choice involved.

This is an ideal topic to discover what Coaching 2.0 provides.

The intended results of this particular seminar is to allow a measurable improvement in your work morale and a possible shift in all relationships.  The cost for participating in this is $23.00.  And the net cost for the first 75 participants is then $10+  Write me michael@michaellipp.com to register.

 

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Commitment and Vulnerability

March 26, 2008

Commitment is an extraordinary force in people’s lives – It has the power to overcome thoughts, emotions, moods and habits – virtually anything that we use to stop ourselves from doing anything.  And there are commitment-phobes, not only in relationships, but in any area of our lives.

So a useful question is, “What stops commitment?”  One possible answer is Vulnerability.  Every time we commit – to anything, we increase the chances of being wounded, of losing, of failing.  And we have all experienced wounds, loss and failure.  Commitment exposes an area of vulnerability and we’ve experienced the dangers.

We have established a history where vulnerability = commitment, so why commit?  The way to become invulnerable is to not commit.  And despite the evidence of the strength of commitment, the embedded fear of vulnerability dominates.

The problem is that you can’t hedge your bet.  Commitment is 100%; you cannot sort of commit.  But here is where we trick – and in tricking – rob ourselves.  After a while – and the length of ‘a while’ is different for each of us – the experience of the hurt disappears.  But the decisions not to – the armor of invulnerability remains and hardens.  And we remain hurt when the next opportunity arises.

We’re left with wanting the rewards of commitment before committing.  We stand in front of a fireplace and yell at it, “First give me fire, then I’ll give you wood.” 

We are hurt in advance, by memories perhaps forgotten.  Here’s the only thing to do to gain the power commitment gives  you:

When you come to a high wall, toss your hat over it.  Then you’ll climb.

More good things are coming from me.  I will be launching a teleseminar on Coaching 2.0 – not so you’ll find out about it, but so you’ll experience it.  Still things I’m researching.  Stay tuned.  Check my website:  www.michaellipp.com

Permission

November 27, 2007

A friend of mine just emailed me about an essay I wrote – The ‘message’ I wrote was that when I give you my word, I am also giving you permission to hold me accountable for keeping that word.  I can’t find it – but I hold myself accountable because I gave him my word.

One of the things about that is that we are careless about our word.  See – it’s not dependent on standard, agreed upon English.  We do not have to say, “you have my word” or “I promise that …”  So we can’t wiggle out when we don’t use those phrases.  It could be something simple, even nebulous, like, “I’ll get back to you on that.”  Even though we don’t give a specific ‘by when,’ there’s a commitment there – granted, the receiver has to have a sense of when ‘long enough’ is…so there is some wiggle room – but not that much.

If I consider myself a person whose word is solid (and I do), then I owe it to myself to allow you to hold me accountable for it.   I follow the Law of Attraction – The Universe responds to who I am – not to who I say I am.  If I am always true to my word, then my word is law, at least in my universe (which is the only one that counts for me.)

Now I don’t always keep my word – this isn’t a holier than thou sermon.  Sometimes I forget; sometimes circumstances seem to get in the way.  But when I forget, I really want you to remind me, to hold me accountable; you’re doing me a service.

And when I just blow it, it works for me to clean it up as soon as I can, to make amends when possible.  And (I’m Jewish) there’s always Yom Kippur – the Day of Atonement.  I ask God to forgive me – and He always does – even though we both know I’ll do it again.

Figuring it Out

May 4, 2007

Now that my new site is finally up (www.michaellipp.com) I can see that I’ve given myself so much to write that I have no time to write-  My site has two sides – On one, I write New Futures; on the other Writing for the Reading.  And I have this BLOG.  I’m committed to writing articles  and there’s other stuff I want to write.  It’s all about scheduling and organizing – I coach on these things, probably because they are constant issues in my life that I’ve always resisted.  So I often have to reexamine how I do things…and as soon as I do, more and different things come along and everything is reshuffled.

I call this Contribution Coaching (one side of my website) and I’m still figuring out what to write – because I do produce New Futures newsletters – So my question is, what do I want to say here that’s distinct?  Do I intend this as a marketing tool? – of course I do – but I consider that everything I do is, in some sense, marketing.  The coaching I would give and I think I’ll take it to myself, is – just write and see what you wrote.

I mean that in a very precise way – When I do that I get my head out of the way.  As far as I can tell, judging from extensive experience, that applies to everything.  We think there’s something we do called thinking.  This we equate with the speaking or seeing or hearing that happens inside our head.  But that’s not thinking; that’s stuff we have going on inside our head – Say it this way: we have ‘thoughts’ and they’re not thinking.

Meditation is the constant practice of attempting to minimize, even ignore those things.  Somehow that empowers thinking.  I don’t know if that makes sense, but it works for me.  I let my fingers do the talking.

What do you think thinking is?

                                                          Useful(?) Quotes

Work joyfully and peacefully, knowing that right thoughts and right efforts will inevitably bring about right results.
James Allen

You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could do. There are no limitations in what you can do except the limitations of your own mind.
Darwin P. Kingsley

Think left and think right and think low and think high. Oh, the thinks you can think up if only you try!
Dr. Seuss

Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is the probable reason so few engage in it.
Henry Ford

The Truth

April 23, 2007

The future is never new until it has a somewhat unfamiliar feel to it.  But what’s the way to do it?  How can you validly change course or set a fresh course? Great athletes go into training.  But what muscle can you train to create new futures?  I suggest we have a significant muscle to strengthen – start with telling the truth about where you are.  No one is giving you marks.  Nobody is judging and evaluating.  There is nothing wrong.  The truth part is all happening in your mind or where you write it down.  And there are lots of ways that you can organize the writing down.   Different contexts can give rise to different flavors of the truth. Okay, let’s say you’ve told the truth.  Now what?  Well, Mr. Scrooge didn’t have to do anything.  The truth was enough to allow a new future to come about.  Can we have the same great fortune?  I don’t know.  I do know that telling the truth will let you know how you can get the debris off the road. So we begin – Please – explore the site.  What I’ll be doing is putting this on its own page. It will be interesting – different and familiar.I’ll be writing New Futures less frequently – The Blog will still be weekly because I’ll also be writing an Ezine from MichaelsReadingRoom.com, which is still coming together. 

Useful Quotes  How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world.Anne Frank 

Progress in every age results only from the fact that there are some men and women who refuse to believe that what they know to be right cannot be done. Russell W. Davenport We know the truth, not only by the reason, but also by the heartBlaise Pascal  Chase after the truth like all hell and you’ll free yourself, even though you never touch its coattails.Clarence Darrow 

Nothing is easier than self-deceit. For what each man wishes, that he also believes to be true
Demosthenes 

Creative Corner 

The Anchor 

We sail our ships in novel ways.
Whenever something new occurs,
we drop an anchor
to get our ship aright
and then we sail along
some more
Until the anchors left behind
Begin to slow us down
And we move more
slow ly
to
our
few chure.
The chainsaw of the truth
can free us for sailing.

Perspectives – March 26th, 2007

March 26, 2007

                          Writing and Coaching 

One of the areas I deal with all the time is fitting it all in.  I used to

have the image of getting 36 pants around a 38+ waist.  And I

always had to strategize. 

Then I learned something simple and profound.  Of course, there

are many counterexamples to what I’m going to say, but if the pants

button, wear ‘em.  Imagine you are looking at an angle, say 75

degrees. 

That angle represents the size of the gap between where you are

and where you want to be. Now I make the following commitment –

promise: 

“Every day I am going to improve my circumstances.”  And I see

that the measure of the angle diminishes every day.  I follow many

very related – and very distinct paths:  I coach.  I write:  I support the

Awakening the Dreamer Symposium.  I am on the Board of the

Global AbundanceAlliance. I have a large – and growing – family. 

And each of those statements has many components – Just like

yours do when you lay them all out.  Coaching seems to conflict

with writing seems to conflict with ….

The Gap will always exist, because my future is always brighter

than my present and my present is always brighter than my past. 

If my inbox were empty, I’d be confused; I’m always adding to it.

If you want to use this article (or any of my articles) in your Ezine,
newsletteror website, you can – as long as you include this bio with it:
Michael Lipp, MS, coach and author provides innovative and
profitable strategies to entrepreneurs, seniors, and people
committed to redesigned – Write me at
michaellipp@1stclasscoaching.com
 

                   Useful Quotes

Every day you may make progress. Every step may be fruitful.
Yet there will stretch out before you an ever-lengthening,
ever-ascending,ever-improving path. You know you will never
get to the end of the journey.
But this, so far from discouraging, only adds to the joy and glory
of the climb.
Winston Churchhill

If advertisers spent the same amount of money on improving
their products as they do on advertising then they wouldn’t
haveto advertise them.

Will Rogers

 Sometimes when you innovate, you make mistakes. It is
best  to admit them quickly, and get on with improving your
other innovations.
Steve Jobs 

The market came with the dawn of civilization and it is not
an invention of capitalism. If it leads to improving the
well-being of the people there is no contradiction with
socialism
Mikhail Gorbachev 

                                     The Creative Corner

                                        Improving What I Write 
I suffer from an endless need to explain.
I know we never fully understand anybody or anything,
Yet, even while I’m certain that nobody hears what’s said;
that we don’t see what’s seen or read what’s read:
that we live in crowds in splendid social isolation;
yet even then, I am compelled
to embellish, to elaborate,
to simplify and clarify –
to try to make it plain 
Some of these are poems – brush strokes of life,
words flicked on paper,
Image smears. 
I cannot sustain my own attention
so poems are short,
just enough to tickle your ears.
 
Some – like this – are prose disguised,
an inquiry into humanity’s insanity
and greatness.
 Written in poetic form,
I write an idea as a chunk of words
to make it easier to see what I thunk
and think absurd.